Icon = a person or thing regarded as a representative symbol of something. Every relationship in your life is to be an “icon” of the relationship between Jesus and His beloved bride, the church. The way you love others is to reflect the way Jesus loves you. Our love, like the love of Jesus, is to be sacrificial, unconditional and incarnational. We’re to give up our own self-love. We’re to love others no matter what....

Many have asked us for a concise summary of what Heather and I provide to help marriages, families, churches…the world! Here it is!   What we teach… 1. How God’s way for marriage shapes every relationship & particularly shapes our Gospel witness to ALL the world! 2. Sharing God’s instructions for marriage & relationships from Gen. 2:24, Matt. 19:5 & Eph. 5:31f in a SIMPLE, MEMORABLE and CHRIST-CENTERED way, utilizing...

Handing Out Life is now available for purchase (CLICK HERE TO SEE IT ON AMAZON).  This is the book that I’ve been thinking about for over 10 years and that I put to paper last fall.  It summarizes the key concepts I’ve been sharing in this blog and through various seminars, papers and sermons on the topic of marriage and all relationships in God’s way.  Here’s the summary of my book as it appears on the back cover of...

In this video I explain how marriage in God’s way is marked by sacrificial, unconditional and incarnational love.  I use a a simple, memorable and Christ centered “hand” illustration that will be useful in marriage and every other relationship. I’d appreciate any feedback you may wish to offer on whether this video was helpful to you or how the message might be...

This past week my family joined with my dad, my two brothers and their families for a mini family reunion for a couple of days.  It really was a very enjoyable time.  Note that I say “enjoyable” rather than “fun” or “happy” or “relaxing.”  Not that those latter descriptors weren’t true, but the better term to describe the time was enjoyable. Whenever you get that many people together,...