Couples often ask, “What’s ONE thing we can start doing immediately to improve our marriage?” To answer that, I need to know what they’re NOT doing. Quite often, a couple of quick questions will provide some important answers. Are you confessing your guilt to each other and offering forgiveness in the name of Jesus? That’s one great place to start. Are you praying together daily? That’s another great step that can have huge blessings to your relationship.
Out of all the seminars that Heather and I have led, couple prayer together is one of the most engaging topics. Most couples act as though they’ve never considered the idea, giving us the “deer in the headlights” look. A few have tried it, but let it drop because it was awkward or too difficult to maintain. However, MANY who’ve accepted the challenge to pray together daily have come back to us to report on what a HUGE blessing it’s been to them. They’re living proof of the truth to Matthew 18:19, “Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven.” (ESV)
How do you start? It can be as simple as holding hands and praying out loud the Lord’s Prayer. Then progress to each one adding a one sentence prayer of thanks for a blessing. Then, take turns adding other short sentences … praises, confessions, requests. Simply carry on a conversation with your heavenly Father … and let your best friend on earth listen in.
Praying together may seem strange, awkward or scary. But, I guarantee it’s worth the effort to overcome these hurdles. I KNOW from experience. It’s been a HUGE blessing to Heather and me every day (except a few) for the last 21 years!
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